Daily Archives: August 10, 2011

Aashish Gandhi

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When I met Sameer:  04/10/1999

Sameer and I first met at Naren uncle’s 60th Birthday Party.

What you remember and appreciated most about Sameer

While my interaction with him was very limited throughout the years, I remember his calm and collected tone and the manner in which he conveyed his thoughts.

Extended thoughts about Sameer. Please write as much as you like.

I don’t even know how to offer my condolences to Naren uncle and Neena aunty. They have always been like my parents. I can only imagine what my parents and family would have gone through if I hadn’t survived an acute system shutdown on 7/29/2011.

Neena aunty, I have always seen you cheerful, smiling, and giving us the right advice when needed. I know this is an extremely difficult moment for all of us, but please take care of uncle and yourself.

Pankaj And Kalpana Desai Lady Lake Fl

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Our Dear Narenbhai and Ninaben,

Namaste!!

Kalpana and I were very saddened to hear your beloved Sameer’s death.

I never had an occassion to meet him but the wonderful things we heard from Asvinbhai, Arunabhabhi and all, and What a great son you raised I can only surmise.

It is said when your spouse dies, you lose your present and future; and when your child dies, you lose your Past, Present and future. Those words of wisdom!!!

Now that Sameer is gone , all future special occasions will be forever changed. Visiting NYand NJ and on the phone and not having to talk with “Sameer”, not seeing his ever handsome, smiling face can not be imagined. The sharing of life’s unique and special events will never again take place. No matter how good a relationship may have been, the survivor often believes it should have been better, causing guilt.

Despite the physical distance that may separate us as adults, this bond of blood and friendship provided protection of Son. And certainly we can make it better by thinking about them; talk about them; remember them at special times such as birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries.

So often as adults, our relationship has changed from younger years. Each travels a separate path, and sometimes communication is lacking and or absent, with ambivalent feelings about maintaining the relationship surface. Even One’s own mortality is often questioned in the aftermath of such loss. So It is also natural for the surviving Parents to look at their own lives and question how many years they have left, and what their deaths would do to the family.

But let us make a resolve to stay in touch regularly, so we will find positive changes, frequent positive communication within our own lives. Let us celebrate Sameer’s life and wonderful memories then get down with the grief as he did not suffer too much and lived a wonderful, glorious albeit short life.

So please accept our sincere condolences in your bereavement and may god grant you the strength to bear this loss.

With Pranams and Warmest regards to Surekha,Shailin and familyl and hugs to you all.

Pankaj, Kalpana, Raj, Rishi and Rupal.

Kathryn Bowsher

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When I met Sameer:  9/89

What you remember and appreciated most about Sameer
Centered and Joyful … just plain fun to be around

Extended thoughts about Sameer. Please write as much as you like.
My heart goes out to everyone who is feeling his loss in their daily lives.

Nancy Geisse Pile

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When I met Sameer:  08/1989

Where Sameer and I spent time

Sameer and I were housemates at Stanford Bschool in 1989- 1990. We also traveled to Africa together as part of a very small group studying the South African government in the summer of 1990- just 6 months after Nelson Mandela was released from prison. (In fact, I have a photo of Sameer with Mr. Mandela. I will try to find it and post it.)

What you remember and appreciated most about Sameer
His fantastic laugh. I used to hear that through the walls of our poorly made rental house in Menlo Park. Loved it. (I also used to hear the walls vibrate from his snoring but that’s another story.)

I also remember how friendly he was to everyone. Sameer had no enemies in bschool and was well like by all.

I also remember how we was always in a good mood. Each day he had a bright smile on his face and was so quick to laugh. He could brighten up any room- and he did.

Extended thoughts about Sameer. Please write as much as you like.
Sameer and I have kept in touch but only periodically. I would see him when he would visit and we’d check in by phone occasionally. We spoke approx two weeks ago about his career. He told me at the time how happy he was with his personal life- his wonderful wife of 7 years and his two small children. He sounded so proud and it was clear he was exactly where he wanted to be personally.

Surekha, I wish I had been able to meet you. I think we would have met in just 6 weeks at our 20 year bschool reunion. It will be a sad event without Sameer. I am so sad for your loss. I wish I could do something for you and your children to make it easier. My prayers are with you.